Getting engaged to your person is one of your happiest days. You’ve probably dreamed of this day for a long time, waiting for those four special words, popping that champagne in celebration, calling all your friends and family to share the good news! You can finally get started on making that Pinterest board become reality. After the initial excitement, are you left with a holy moly–now what? Now I actually have to plan this wedding! I’m here to tell you, I’ve been there. I’m a fairly organized person, one who dreamed of her wedding for years. But when I actually sat down to get started, I felt like my brain went to a pile a mush. I thought maybe you could use a few tips to get started.

1. Take a week or two to just relax with your new fiancé. Enjoy being engaged before the craziness of wedding planning begins.
2. Figure out the season you want to get married in. That will help with a vision, a color scheme, a “theme” if you’re going to have one. Then you can focus on a date and venue.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. If you know people who are organized, use them. If you know people who are married, ask them questions. Take advice from people you respect, and research their recommendations.
4. You can’t please everyone. Therefore, do what you and your soon to be husband want. Plan things that mean a lot to you. You will be surrounded by people who love you, so they will appreciate that your wedding represents the two of you.
5. On the day of, sit back and relax. You’ve done the hard work of planning, now it’s time to get you married! In the end that’s what it’s all about, so don’t sweat the small things.

Take a couple deep breaths, have a glass of wine, and know that you can do this 🙂