I’ve been thinking about this post for a little while now. Probably because some of my friends are about to have babies any day now. Do you want to help new moms out, but feel stuck on how to do it? Then you just end up saying, “let me know if I can do anything?” Yeah, me too. Been there. Being a mom of 2, I’ve realized what I think would be most helpful after having a baby, and I thought I’d let you all in on the secret 😉

-Bring a meal. This is a pretty normal one. Here’s the thing, though, it doesn’t have to be home made. Of course that’s always nice, but really, we new moms [especially nursing moms that are basically hungry for 10 months straight] just want food. I had a friend order a pizza and salad online and pay for it to be delivered to our house. Plus with all the food services out there nowadays, you don’t even have to be local to send your bestie a meal 🙂

-Text your friend a few days and times you have free and ask which works for her. This eliminates the back and forth of well maybe I’ll stop by some time, let me know if you need anything. It’s hard for anyone to ask for help, especially a new, sleep deprived mom. So give her a couple options to choose from.

-Go over and make yourself useful. Hold the baby so mom can rest, fold AND PUT AWAY laundry, heck, start a load of laundry if you can. Clean up the kitchen. You get the idea 🙂 It’s pretty obvious what will need tending to when you are going over to help. You don’t need permission to help tidy up a bit.

-Know when to leave. Haha. Listen, we love you and will be BEYOND grateful, seriously—beyond, that you took time to come over, bring us a meal, hold our child, clean up for us, but we are tired. We don’t want to seem rude by saying ‘Okay thanks for stopping by,’ especially with how generous you were. It won’t be like this forever, promise 🙂

-Check in. Make sure you’re checking on your friend. It makes such a difference to know people are thinking and praying for you and your little one. I know it’s not easy to go over and help, or hold a baby, so simply letting the new mama know you’re praying for her will go a long way.

I wasn’t meaning for this post to sound rude by any means. I’m simply giving you permission to do these things. I was on the other side not long ago. The side of wanting to help but not knowing how, and so it ends up becoming the “let me know.” Don’t be shy, if you want to help, help. It will be appreciated 🙂 Did I miss anything? What are some other ways we can help new mamas?

PS. I linked a couple small things that would be great little gifts for new mamas 🙂