It’s been a few months now of being a mother of 2. There are so many emotions I have, and a lot of them on a daily basis 😉 I’m sure you’ve heard most of these before, but my thought was when you read them from another mom, it might give you a sense that you’re not alone!
Ask for help. I will admit, I have a small [ish] pride issue. I rarely like to ask for help. I couldn’t tell you where it comes from other than it’s not from Jesus that’s for sure. I spent a lot of my years trying to do it all, and let’s be real, I couldn’t, and definitely can’t do it all now! I am slowly but surely learning to ask for help. Whether it’s simply asking Matt to grab me something from the other room, or a bigger ask, like someone watching a kiddo while I take another to the doctor. It’s OKAY, actually no, it’s healthy to ask for help! And I will say, most of your good friends and family will WANT to help!
This crap is hard. I’m not afraid to say it–motherhood is hard! You give give give and then have to give a little more. All on a small amount of sleep. It’s exhausting. I wanted this point in here because it’s okay that you feel tired! This is why we ask for help! Try not to get to a point of completely falling apart.
Take time for yourself. With all that being said, be sure to take care of yourself! Have your spouse or family or a good friend take the kids on a walk for 20 minutes. Or take a bath when they are in bed. I love to read, but haven’t “found the time” in the last few years. This year I have tried to set aside a little time each day to read. Even if it’s just 15 minutes. Go out with your friends, go on a date with your spouse! You need to nurture your relationship, and take care of yourself so that you can feel re-energized to take care of your littles.
How to eat standing up. On a lighter note, most days I have to eat my lunch standing at the counter with a baby on my hip haha. The days I get a hot meal that I don’t have to share are treasured meals haha
How to act like I have 5 arms. I will say, I am amazed at how many tasks I can do with a baby on my hip and another one running around my legs. I have learned to multi-task with the best of ‘em 🙂
So to all your mamas out there—YOU’VE GOT THIS! And you are not alone. Let’s cheer each other on, and be sure we are showing up and being real with each other 🙂